I don’t dread Valentine’s Day because it’s the only reason keeping Hallmark in business.
I don’t dread it because it’s another excuse for couples to parade their PDA around.
I don’t dread it because much like New Year’s Eve, this over-hyped holiday is downright boring. Spent either waiting in line for hours for a 9 o’ clock dinner reservation at an overpriced restaurant deemed “romantic” because they’ve dimmed the lights so low you can’t even see what you’re eating or exchanging the same ol’ gifts of chocolate, flowers and baubles. *Yawn.
And I am definitely not dreading it because I will be single on Valentine’s Day this year.
In fact, this is actually the first year where I cherish being single. I’ll admit, in the past, I’ve wanted to shake being single off me like it’s an angry bee but this year, I’ve learned to embrace the freedom that flying solo will entail.
Hence, I’ve concocted a bunch of great stuff for us single gals to do as we celebrate Singles Awareness Day or rather, Galentines!
Watch Obscure Foreign Films
Boys never seem to be good checking out truly great cinema- they always fall asleep or groan about it or what to make out with you through it. I’d check out these sexy South Korean films: Poetry by Lee Chang-dong or The Housemaid by Im Sang-soo by myself.
If you think about it, the person you will have the longest relationship with is…yourself. Why not make time for some self-reflection, journaling goals, ways to improve, memories?
Spend the season of love giving love to those who might not necessarily receive a lot. Volunteer at an elderly home, homeless shelter, non-profit organization. Do it by yourself because when you’re doing it alone, you’re not trying to impress anyone or prove how holy you are. You’re just doing it out of the goodness of your heart.
It’s time to bust out the pans and oven mitts and whip up some delicious sweets. You won’t have to worry about any sneaky muffin thieves who’ll creep into you kitchen while you’re not looking. I’d bake for ALL my loved ones, my mom, dad, sister and friends. Check out Sarah J. Gim’s mouthwatering site Tastespotting for more recipe ideas.
I hate jogging with other people, no offense. I either run too slow and have to overwork my body to catch up (or let down my ego and beg them to slow down) or run slower as I wait for my lagging partner. Jogging by myself gives me time to think and meditate.
Throw a Game Night
Nothing says the more the merrier like game night where people of all types, singles and non-singles, are invited to show off their board game prowess. Just don’t be lame and make it a couples’ night or anything. My favorite games to dominate at–err, I mean, play–include Cranium and Taboo.
Day spas, tea parties, salsa dancing, there’s plenty of ways to celebrate your singledom. Most of us will only be single for a limited time in our lives. Make the most of it!
Here in America, this past November 11 was Veterans Day, but in China, 11.11 has a completely different meaning. A celebration that first started as a way to comfort themselves for being single at various universities in Nanjing during 1990s, Singles Day is now a popular pop culture festival amongst young people in China. If couples around the world have Valentine’s Day to celebrate, why can’t bachelors and bachelorettes have a Singles’ Day to celebrate as well? In fact, it has become one of those big moneymaking days for companies, especially the dating industry.
The date was chosen because it consists of four “ones,” and of course, the number one represents singlehood. It is also known as Guang Gun Jie (translates to bare branch festival) because bare branches are supposedly symbolic of bachelors. Chinese festivals always have some sort of festive food and this one is no exception. If you see people eating four dough sticks and possibly also an egg, they may be single. The four dough sticks represent the “ones” in 11.11, and the egg is the “dot” in the middle that separates the month and the day.
This year, Chinese Singles Day was celebrated in many ways throughout China: sending e-greetings wishing others “Happy Singles Day,” going out to eat with other unattached people while paying for their own meals or attending speed dating opportunities. Even animals joined in with the celebration. Partner-less animals in Shenzhen were offered their favorite food on this special day. More shockingly, the zoo in Kunming posted want ads for mates for their “single” animals on the Internet, looking to propagate the rare species with offspring.
It appears that having a Singles Day is a fun way to remind yourself it’s alright to not be with someone. In fact, the slogan for this year is “Be happy alone.” This branched off from a recently popular verse on the internet that says, “No burden, no nagging, no dispute, no tears – Life is short, freedom is precious.” However, some seem to think it hurts to have yet another day that reminds you that you’re alone. But it can potentially be the day where you find the one you’ve been looking for since there are many opportunities for you to meet others in the same position. What are your thoughts?
Just for fun, look at www.chinadaily.com.cn/china/2010-11/11/content_11537489.htm for various top-tens about this day!