Are we a fan of marriage proposals here at Audrey? You bet.
So far, we’ve seen quite an interesting array of proposals. For instance, there was the adorable one that happened in the middle of a sing-along to Disney’s Frozen. Then there was the elaborate, 27-minute video proposal that contained music videos, flashmobs, and even movie trailers.
And then there are the people who do everything in their power to stick out from the rest. Who can forget the young lady who decided to defy gender roles and propose to her boyfriend instead? And surely we all remember the uncomfortable live marriage proposal that angered feminists everywhere.
Well now, we’ve uncovered a marriage proposal that aims to be even more uncomfortably awkward.
This past Valentine’s day was an opportunity for everyone to embrace their romantic side. This certainly seemed to be case for this Chinese woman in Xiamen, Fujian who made special arrangements at this movie theater. She then waited for her boyfriend to appear.
After giving a proposal speech, she gets down on one knee and reveals a ring to her boyfriend.
This is when things get a little awkward. Pictures of the boyfriend show a man who doesn’t seem to be very enthusiastic about the whole ordeal. Or maybe he’s just expressionless because he’s surprised?
Here he is seen placing the ring on her finger, but he definitely appears reluctant to do so.
And here we see the happy couple. Well, she certainly seems happy. His half-hearted hug and sour expression is questionable.
Very little is known about the couple so our optimistic side says he may just carry that expression naturally. However, if our instincts are correct, we may be looking at the most uncomfortable marriage proposal ever.
With Valentine’s Day around the corner, dating companies are seeing an influx of people who wouldn’t mind meeting “the one” before the romance-filled holiday gets here. Using Valentine’s Day to their advantage, many of these dating companies are doing whatever it takes to get more clients.
The Chinese dating company Baihe.com is no exception. They seem to have taken this determination to the extreme with a very personal commercial targeting young women.
In the commercial, an elderly grandmother keeps asking her granddaughter whether she is married yet. The young lady, who just graduated from college, is left to reply with a face of guilt and sadness.
As the grandmother gets closer and closer to death, the young woman decides that she shouldn’t be so picky and ought to make her grandmother happy. With grandma lying in a hospital bed, the young woman shows up in her wedding gown and with a groom. She has finally made her grandmother happy.
Cue the cheesy music and tear-filled smiles.
But wait. Is this commercial actually suggesting that one shouldn’t be picky with the person they will spend the rest of their life with?
Unfortunately, this commercial will probably make many young Asian women feel guilty. Even in America, Asian women feel this pressure. Often times, strict parents will warn their daughters not to date until they are done with school. The second graduation comes along, everything shifts and suddenly they are pressured to find a husband as soon as possible.
Confusing? You bet.
I don’t know about you, but we’re not really comfortable with a commercial using an aging grandma to guilt-trip young women into finding a man to marry.
It’s been months since its release, but people still can’t stop talking about the Disney animated film, Frozen. The film has been gathering nominations left and right, has stolen the hearts of many, and has already slid past the $300M mark domestically and over $600M worldwide. Frozen is on its way to being the highest-grossing Disney Animation release in history.
Because the film’s popularity, it’s no surprise that we’ve seen fans everywhere cover the songs in Frozen. Young girls are belting out the lyrics to “Let it Go” and social media seems to have been covered with a single question: do you want to build a snowman?
In the midst of all these fan tributes to the film, it was difficult to find just one that stood out. But then we stumbled upon this.
Viewers simply could not agree on whether or not the 27-minute-long proposal was cute or too much. However, viewers all seemed to agree on their opinion of the following proposal.
This past Thursday, the Today show was about to interview Simone Jhingoor for her work in Women’s Housing and Economic Development Corporation, a non-profit organization that provides services to low-income women and their families. Suddenly, her boyfriend Chirag Shah appeared to say a few words. He then got down on one knee and proposed to her on live television.
Apparently, the public doesn’t think so. While the idea of a public marriage proposal sounds nice, just about every media outlet has called this particular proposal “awkward.” The Stir describes the whole ordeal by stating, “Before Simone got a chance to tell us [about her organization], she was interrupted by the most awkward proposal ever. Her boyfriend Chirag Shah apparently thought it was a good idea to show up, grab the microphone from Al, and give a pretty me-centric speech before asking Simone to marry him.”
Bustle described the inappropriate tactic of having Jhingoor believe she was allowed to speak about what she was passionate about.
Jhingoor was duped into thinking she’d just earned a shot to share her professional success and passion with the entire country, giving her a level of professional validation few of us ever have the opportunity to enjoy. It’s a dream come true for any one — man or woman — who’s thoroughly dedicated to their work. But before Jhingoor can even utter a syllable about her job or what she does to help the people of the Bronx, she’s whisked away to hear a diatribe about her now-fiancé and his boyhood dreams
Jezebel agreed with Bustle’s sentiments and seemed irritated with Shah’s “self-centered” speech:
Suddenly, her boyfriend, Chirag Shah, showed up with a rather self-centered (“I moved, MY dream”) over-rehearsed speech that turned into a marriage proposal. Bait and switch, dude.
As Simone realized what was happening, she tried to fix her hair. She had a tight-lipped smile on her face, but she seemed slightly annoyed. Still, Chirag got on one knee and Simone “yes.” Their friends were behind her, cheering. There was a stiff hug.
But immediately afterwards, when Al asked if she had any idea Chirag was about to propose, Simone said, “No! I thought I was here talking about my organization. I’m giving back to the community!” Right. You thought it was your moment — you were excited for your moment — and he made it all about him.
While the public had no problem analyzing the proposal and slamming Shah for his awkward methods, it may be important to hear what the couple has to say. Simone Jhingoor has openly stated that she is upset with the negative reactions and does not believe that her fiance stole her spotlight at all. In fact, the Today show posted a follow-up on Friday with some details about the organization. When YourTango asked Jhingoor to comment on the negative backlash to the proposal, she says:
I am unhappy about the recent backlash that was received from my on-air engagement to Chirag. He does not deserve to be labeled self-centered on feminist websites like Jezebel critiquing the entire experience when he is the most thoughtful person I know. I am moved by the beautiful proposal he arranged out of a genuine intention to make me happy. All of my close friends and family members cried when they saw it because of how sweet it was. My time on the show was never supposed to be about my work as it was about a proposal Chirag wanted to surprise me with on our four-year anniversary. Also, I am generally a very calm and centered person, which is a result of much of the personal change work that I have engaged in. It was disappointing for people to apply their own lens and cultural biases to interpret that I was pissed off and upset about not getting to speak about my work. Plus, Chirag has always been supportive of my social change work and activism, which is what I love about him.
Watch the proposal for yourself and tell us what you think.
Back in a time long, long ago, marriage proposals were simple ordeals. You would bring your partner to some place special, get down on one knee, promise the world to them and just like that you were engaged. Simple right?
Well the rise in social media has made marriage proposals everything but simple. Now that we can all see each other’s method of proposing, expectations have shot up. As much as we hate to admit it, we now have grand daydreams of the extravagant moment when our hand will be asked in marriage. This leaves our poor suitor to shake their head at every new marriage proposal that goes viral. What is it this time? A proposal via hot air balloon? A flashmob? Fireworks? Whatever it may be, you can bet it’s elaborate.
A few months ago, we posted a video that turned heads. A woman asked her boyfriend to marry her with her own elaborate planning. But now, we’ve found a proposal that gives the phrase “over-the-top” a new meaning.
Creator of history’s most elaborate marriage proposal is Justin Baldoni. He arranged for his then-girlfriend, Emily Foxler , to meet him at the restaurant where they had their first date. There she finds a giant projected video of her soon-to-be groom explaining that he is not standing her up. He’s doing the opposite.
And this begins a 27-minute long proposal including everything from music videos, flashmobs, and movie trailers. Is it squeal-worthy or is it cringe-worthy? Some women are left in joyful tears and ask if Baldoni has a twin brother. Others have commented, “It makes those last 12 scenes of the Lord of the Rings film trilogy seem positively succinct, and it crosses the line between devoting noticeable time and effort to something and wasting half of your soon-to-be fiancee’s evening.”
Whatever your opinion may be, Baldoni succeeded with getting his love to accept his very epic proposal. Baldoni tells Inside Edition, “I am someone who I loves grand gestures. I love expressing my love in big ways.”
Even more surprising is the guest appearance of Korean American actor James Kyson. The 27-year-old, who is most known for his character Ando Masahashi on the NBC television series Heroes, is a must see in this video. Kyson dancing to Nsync, Boy II Men and Dancing Queen? Check it out for yourself:
Hearts all around the world can be heard breaking.
Well not really, but according to my facebook newsfeed, there is certainly a great deal of sadness. One Direction’s 20-year-old British Pakestinian heartthrob, Zayn Malik, proposed to his girlfriend of two years, singer Perrie Edwards.
The news was confirmed by Edward’s brother via twitter. Still in denial? Hate to break the news, but the couple hit the red carpet in London this past Tuesday for the premiere of the boy band’s documentary, “One Direction: This is Us.” Edwards can be seen clearly flaunting the gorgeous engagement ring.
There’s no denying that Malik was a fan-favorite. As much as we’re sad to see Malik leave the market, I’m sure everyone wishes the best of luck for this marriage (I hope?). So chin up everyone! The best news? We can still swoon over pictures of Zayn all we want!
Columnist Paul Nakayama is determined to get to the bottom of what his male friends really want in a woman. What he discovered? Ask a woman.
ISSUE: Summer 2012
DEPT: Audrey Living
STORY: Paul Nakayama
To be perfectly honest, I’ve been dreading writing this issue’s Awful Truth for weeks now. Seeing as I’m currently stuck in my hotel room in Jodhpur, India, awaiting the passing of a brutal dust storm, I guess it’s nature’s way of telling me to get off my ass. I just wish my to-do reminders didn’t consist of strong winds scooping up cow dung from the streets and whipping them around town. I prefer the carrot to a stick made of hepati- tis. At any rate, the topic for this issue is what men really want, so here’s what I did: I asked my single friends what they look for, and I asked my married friends what they love about their wives. If this works, the answer hopefully lies somewhere be- tween a booty call and a divorce.
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