DEPT The Market
Issue Spring 2013
Author Paul Nakayama
￼In an age where “check her out” means online and not from across ￼the room, columnist Paul Nakayama wonders if internet pre-screening makes for better and more efficient dating.
A lot’s changed in the dating scene in the 10 years I’ve been with Audrey Magazine. I was recently re- minded of how much that is true when my editors asked me if guys also engaged in Internet stalking, particularly prior to going on a date. I remember this little website called Asian Avenue where all of a sudden there was this tremendous pool of girls you could potentially date. I say “potentially” because there’s also this little thing called probability and the chances are that more girls just mean more “no’s.” But back then, if you put a person’s name in a search field, you didn’t get much. Whatever a girl wanted you to know, she herself had to plant. It was a tenuous representation at best and a case of Catfish usually. I mean, if you wanted to see some photos, you usually had to sift through fuzzy misrepresentations that had a lot of shadows or a conspicuous amount of floor plants covering her face. Or maybe it was just me, and I just happened to get IM’ed by girls that admired the style of Bigfoot photos. These days, it’s a wholly different battlefield.
Dept The Market
Issue Fall 2012
Hed: Here Goes Nothing
Ever wonder what you’d find on an online dating site? Pervs, fetishists … the boy next door? One Asian American woman does the (dirty) work for us in our inaugural O.D.D. (Online Dating Diary) column.
Online dating can be a daunting experience for both men and women, and even more specifically for an Asian American woman. Some may argue that Asian American women have it easy because they tend to
receive the most number of messages on online dating sites, but having X number of suitors does not necessarily make the experience any easier or better.
I’ve tried online dating before — for a whole week — before permanently deleting my account after receiving little more than creepy (and sometimes downright revolting) messages from various men on the site. At one point, a guy I had grown to trust a bit made a complete 180 — from a seemingly nice guy to one who confessed how much he liked to masturbate to my picture.
DEPT The Market
ISSUE Fall 2012
AUTHOR Paul Nakayama
HED: THE DYNAMIC DUO
He’s one way when he’s sober, completely different when he’s drunk. Columnist Paul Nakayama uncovers the truth behind your masked man.
I just returned from Comic Con with a pile of Batman books, and it’s a few days before The Dark Knight Rises premieres. I’m almost fanatically on the Batman bandwagon this week, and if I could look good in black leather and spandex, I would be running around dressed in it. Now, this is probably not a good way to portray myself considering I’m the magazine’s resident dating columnist, but I’m more of an “unintentional-abstinence-sucks-so-don’t-do-what-I-do” sort of advisor anyway. So, in sheer geek revelry, I’m going to use Batman as my device for talking through this month’s Awful Truth topic: “dual identities,” or why men are flirtier when drunk.
If you’re in need of a good cry then you may want to check out Seo In Guk’s “With Laughter or With Tears” Music Video. The song makes us feel that all too familiar pain that comes with heartbreak and the loneliness of losing the one you love.
After indulging in such a sad song, we decided that we wanted to show our readers a more positive way of thinking. So wipe those tears away and continue reading for Audrey’s Five Ways To Deal With Heartbreak:
On our last Audrey Do’s and Don’ts, we gave you some tips to get ready for a date. Today, we’re gonna take it one step further and talk about the Do’s and Don’ts of the second date.
Many believe that the second date is actually more important than the first. With a first date, there’s a fifty-fifty chance that the date could be good or bad. If it’s bad, you never have to see your date again (at least not in a romantic way). The second date? Completely different story. The first impression is done and apparently it went well. The pressure of that is now replaced with the pressure of testing the waters.
You like each other. You both want more. And you both know it.
So what now? What do you wear? How physical do you get? Continue reading for Audrey’s Dos and Don’t of the second date!
The awkward silences. The nervous need to find something to talk about. The need to impress.
Ah yes, the familiar feelings of a first date. If you’re one of the lucky ones, first dates are exciting experiences leaving you wanting more. And for the not-so-lucky ones? A palm to the face. Here at Audrey we’ve had our number of uncomfortable first dates and (just because we love our readers) we’re he’re to share them! Click on to see Audrey Staff spill our FIRST DATE GONE WRONG stories:
So you finally got your crush to ask you out on a date! You’ve been looking forward to this for weeks and now the date is only hours away. What to do now? Well sit down and take a few minutes to read our Do’s and Don’ts when getting ready for a date!
During an interview at 92Y on Wednesday night, Vera Wang told Fern Mallis (Creator of New York Fashion Week) that her relationship with with figure skater Evan Lysacek was nothing more of a mentor-mentee relationship and it was not the reason why her marriage fell apart.
“I’m his mentor, his true mentor I hope for his ongoing life after sports,” the Chinese American fashion designer insisted to Mallis.
Last summer, after Wang announced she was ending her marriage (just two weeks shy of their 23rd anniversary) to businessman Arthur Baker, she was reportedly seen attending functions together with the 27-year-old American figure skater. Rumors had also escalated that they had also moved in together.
Wang married Baker in 1989 and have two daughters together, Cecilia (23) and Josephine (19). Wang is known for her haute couture bridesmaids and wedding gown collections, as well as designing competition dresses for various female figure skaters. Prior to beginning her own line, Wang famously turned down the Editor-in-Chief position of US Vogue (before it turned over to Anna Wintour) after being a Senior Fashion Editor to join Ralph Lauren as a Design Director.
Photo via LaineyGossip
No longer just on the silver screen, there could be some very real romance for Bae Doona and Jim Sturgess.
The Korean actress and the London-born Brit Sturgess worked together on the recent 2012 film, Cloud Atlas. Among their multiple roles, they played the romantically involved Tilda and Adam Ewing. The film was controversial upon release when Sturgess sported “yellowface” in a different segment to portray Korean rebel Hae-Joo Chang residing in dystopian Seoul, opposite Bae’s android character Sonmi-451.
Okay, so we’re maybe a teensy weensy bit tired of talking about Jeremy Lin, the 23-year-old New York Knicks point-guard who linfiltrated America with Linsanity.
But look! Audrey Magazine landed on Wall Street Journal talking about Jeremy Lin!
To read the article that started it all, check here.