Why Asian Americans Should Care About Emma Sulkowicz’s Rape Protest

 

By now, you’ve probably heard of Emma Sulkowicz, the Columbia University senior who was raped by a fellow student on the first day of her sophomore year. She is now carrying around a dorm mattress on campus until her rapist is expelled or leaves school. This act is also a way to protest the manner in which the university handled her rape complaint, or rather, mishandled her rape complaint.

“Rape can happen anywhere,” she explains in a video published by the Columbia Spectator. “For me, I was raped in my own dorm bed. Since then, it has basically become fraught for me, and I feel like I’ve carried the weight of what happened there with me everywhere since then.”

Seven months after the incident, her case finally made it to a university hearing. Sources claim that the three administrators on the panel were confused about anal rape and skeptical about “how it was possible for someone to penetrate her there without lubricant.” Allegedly, Sulkowicz had no other option but to draw a diagram to make them understand. Sulkowicz was left feeling empty and sick after the hearing and worst of all, the man Sulkowicz had accused was found not responsible.

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“Every day, I am afraid to leave my room,” Sulkowicz told Time.“Even seeing people who look remotely like my rapist scares me. Last semester I was working in the dark room in the photography department. Though my rapist wasn’t in my class, he asked permission from his teacher to come and work in the dark room during my class time. I started crying and hyperventilating. As long as he’s on campus with me, he can continue to harass me.”

She allowed her experience to shape her senior thesis called “Carry That Weight.” Carrying her mattress around is her way to protest the fact that her rapist continues to study on campus and acts as a visual representation of the weight she carries with her since the incident.

 


Yes, this matters to the Asian American Community.

For those of you who have glanced at this story and find that it doesn’t apply to you, you may want to think again. Aside from the fact that rape is a very serious issue for everyone, the Asian American community in particular has reason to care about this protest.

Larry Lee, NYAWC’s executive director points out, “Sexual assault in the Asian American community is far more pervasive than might be assumed.  A recent report indicates that 19% of Asian women compared to 11% non-Asian women are sexually abused in America’s colleges.”

Worst of all, many of the rape incidents which involve Asian American women go unreported. Sulkowicz did not immediately file the rape complaint out of fear. As a result, when she turned to the NYPD nine months after the incident, there was no evidence left for the NYPD to make an arrest.

As it turns out, the Asian American community also has an issue with reporting rape incidents. Fear definitely plays a factor, but also, studies show that Asian American women are more likely than Caucasians to believe that preventing rape is a woman’s responsibility. Such myths drastically lower the motivation to report the incident. Additionally, Asian American women are more likely to believe that rape is committed by strangers, which is not always the case.

Asian American Psychology: Current Perspectives points out that “first generation South Asian American women may be more likely to blame the victim, which would decrease the likelihood of South Asian American’s seeking help.”

Clearly, this is an ongoing issue within our community and one that we don’t speak of half as much as we should. Sulkowicz’s  protest shines a very public light on rape and we can only hope that such candidness will allow victims in our own community to recognize that it’s not their fault that they couldn’t prevent the rape from happening. Sulkowicz makes it clear that it’s alright and important to speak out about something as taboo as rape.

Although carrying around a mattress may not be the solution for everyone, we hope that members of our own community (once they’re comfortable enough) will follow her footsteps in creating dialogue about this very serious issue.

 

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Film Shows The Dark Truth Behind Indian Brothels and Human Trafficking

 

“They took me to the hotel and even though I said no, they forcefully raped me, ” said one anonymous victim of human trafficking, her voice heavy with emotion. “In the morning I had no clothes on my body. I didn’t know what had happened, I was insensible. I felt very uncomfortable, blood was coming out. It was really difficult.”

Unfortunately, this vicious experience was endured by many of the woman who chose to tell their story for the documentary “Stolen Innocence.” Casey Allred, an American educator in India, and film director Chris Davis are the two behind this important project which all began in 2011.

Allred had opened a school in India and it was there that he noticed a peculiar trend: the girls were disappearing. Even when Allred and other teachers when to the homes of the missing girls to investigate, many were no where to be found and the citizens were reluctant to go into detail about the girls’ whereabouts.

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“I will never forget the day that I learned the truth,” Allred said. “I spoke with a local attorney who told me that he had parents coming to his office every day looking for their lost daughters. He then told me that these girls were being trafficked into the sex trade.”

Shocked by all this, Allred joined forced with Davis and went undercover to red light districts and brothels throughout India, Nepal and Bangladesh to interview the sex workers. They have created a Kickstarter in hopes of raising funds to complete filming so that they can show the world the truth behind these brothels.

Check out the preview below.

 

 

 

Want To Know How Annoying Yellow Fever Is? Check Out This Hilarious “White Fetish” Satire

 

About a month ago, YouTube personality Anna Akana gave us an (awesome) angry rant about yellow fever – something that many of us Asian women have experienced at one point or another.

“These men, the problem with them is that they don’t give a f— about who you really are. The idea of you is enough,” Akana rants. “I don’t understand why you would romanticize an entire race as being submissive or weak or docile or delicate or fragile or whatever the f— is the allure of Asian women.”

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But some women, such as Joy Regullano, opt for other ways of showing disdain for yellow fever. In a sketch called “White Fetish,” Regullano uses satiric humor to turn the tables and show everyone just how annoying yellow fever truly is.

So for all the Asian women out there who have been called exotic, or who have had drunk men scream “Ni Hao” in their ear at a bar (’cause we all apparently speak Chinese), this ones for you.

 

AUDREY MAGAZINE FALL 2014 COVER GIRL REVEALED: EVA CHEN!

 

We are more than a little excited to reveal our Fall 2014 cover girl, Eva Chen!

She’s the chicer, cooler older sister you wish you had — one with all the ins on the best stuff, one you want to have a glass of wine with. Sure, Eva Chen’s the first Asian American editor-in-chief in the Condé Nast publishing empire and the youngest EIC at a major American fashion publication, but don’t let her trailblazing, history-making ways intimidate you. The Lucky magazine #girlboss is redefining what it means to be an editor in the 21st century and leading the charge for print to thrive in an increasingly digital world, one hashtag at a time…

Story by Ko Im
Photos by Conan Thai, conanthai.com
Makeup by Brian Duprey
Hair by Chris Lospalluto
Photo assistant Brian Schutza 

 
 
 

This inspiring cover story will be coming soon! If you can’t wait ’til then, get your hands on the latest issue of Audrey Magazine!

 
 

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What Would You Tell Your 16-Year-Old Self? Words of Wisdom Every Girl Should Hear

 

Anna Akana‘s most recent video lists off things she would tell her 16-year-old self if she could go back in time and do so. Although she is specifically speaking to herself and her own experiences, it is clear that much of her advice can apply to everyone.

“First of all, put yourself first” she says. “I know it’s hard because you’re such a romantic, but God dammit, romance yourself.”

In addition to loving oneself, she also adds that girls ought to stop putting one another down, stop being afraid of going out there and reaching goals, stop making decisions purely based on fear and, most importantly, “Don’t be so hard on yourself.”

Even if you aren’t sixteen anymore, there are words of wisdom in this video for everyone. Check it out for yourself.

 


Like what you see? Be sure to check out Akana’s (awesome) angry rant about yellow fever and the best make up tutorial that won’t teach you a thing about make up.. but is awesome anyway.

Replacing Wrinkles With Muscles: Chinese Senior Citizens Who Are More Athletic Than You

 

Whenever I spend time with family members in their 50s and 60s, they like to remind me that my 20s are my prime years and physically, things will only go downhill from this point on. They usually follow this up with horror stories about joint and muscle pain, but I won’t go into that.

Now as it turns out, if I were talking to some of the senior citizens in Beijing, China, the conversation would be very different. In fact, I may find a few who would challenge me to a push up contest. And trust me– they would win.

Head over to Beijing’s Temple of Heaven Park and you will see it covered in senior citizens. No, they’re not there peacefully feeding pieces of bread to ducks (which would have been my initial guess). They’ve taken over the jungle gym to work out.

And these aren’t just tiny, delicate work outs either. Men are doing sit ups while hanging from metal bars, women are jump-roping and just about everyone seems to be able to do pull ups better than I ever could.

You may be surprised to discover that many of these athletic senior citizens didn’t actually exercise before retiring. With a job to maintain and kids to raise, many admit to not even caring too much about their physical fitness in their younger years. Now retired, the senior citizens finally have time to focus on exercise.

As expected, China’s life expectancy seems to have benefitted from this senior citizen hobby. Huffington Post notes:

Despite rampant cigarette smoking, suffocating pollution and some ghastly food-safety scandals, China compares favorably with other upper middle income countries on life expectancy. At 75.2 years, China’s life expectancy currently lags only 3.5 years behind that of the U.S., despite China having around one-eighth of America’s per-capita GDP.

 

Check out this video below and see their athletic skills for yourself. Keep in mind that nearly everyone in this video is over 60-years-old and retired. In fact, the man in the beginning is 86 and ran a marathon just four years ago.

 

Kiosk Disguised As An ATM Machine Helps Indian Women Report Rape Without Fear

 

There have been countless efforts to try and decrease rape cases in India where terrifying studies show that a woman is raped every 30 minutes. Although all these efforts (such as as anti-rape clothing) try hard to change things, rape continues to be a very serious and prominent issue in India.

Although much focus has been on rape prevention, what about those who have already fallen victim to this unforgivable act? Apparently, they face a whole new layer of difficulties when they try to seek justice.

According to Think Progress, a 16-year-old girl in Calcutta reported a gang-rape to the police. As punishment, the men raped her again and burned her alive. It’s very likely that many women do not report rape out of fear. After all, these death threats are apparently quite common.

 

 

“Women were being denied a fundamental right because of this fear of going to the police. Why should they need someone’s help to do something so basic?” said Joydeep Nayak, a senior member of the police force in India.

Nayak decided to create an alternative to going to the police station. Her solution? She created an electronic kiosk that allows women to discreetly report abuse without fear of backlash. The “Instant Complaint Logging Internet Kiosk,” or “iClik,” resembles an ATM Machine and has been installed in a bank in Bhubaneswar.

Nayak has even addressed the illiteracy issue in India.  For those who are unable to write out a report, the kiosk also records audio reports and scans written complaints.

“My dream is to have a kiosk alongside existing ATMs, in schools, railway stations and bus stations, all over the country — so that women can walk in, complain and leave without any escort or hassles,” Nayak said.

So far, about eight to ten women use the machine every day.

 

 

Not For The Faint of Heart: Stomach-Churning Selfie Video On Top Of A Hong Kong Skyscraper

 

I’m not one who’s afraid of heights, but I certainly know my limits. This video, for instance, definitely goes above and beyond my limits.

This selfie video was taken by photographers Daniel Lau,  A.S. and Andrew Tso. It begins innocently enough by simply showing the trio eating bananas. The video suddenly causes all our stomachs to lurch by panning out and revealing that our innocent trio is actually sitting on top of a 1,135-foot-tall Hong Kong skyscraper.

Dubbed “The World’s Most Dangerous Selfie,” this video has already gained over 2 million views since it’s upload earlier this month.

 

 

Many of us may watch this video and shake our heads in disbelief, but for those of you who need more than 18 seconds to get your heart pumping, you can check out Daniel Lau’s instagram which features a number of gut-churning selfies on top of more dangerously tall buildings. Here are a few of our favorites.

 

 

Why Everyone is Falling in Love With This Talented Taiwanese Drummer

 

Step aside Ringo Starr and Travis Barker, we have a new favorite drummer in town. From the looks of things, she intends to keep her spot as a favorite.

Known to us by her English name, S. White, this Taiwanese jazz drummer and street performer has been turning heads and catching quite a bit of attention. In fact, her official Facebook fan page has nearly 200,000 likes. Now don’t let her youth and petite size fool you– White packs a punch in her performances.

She is often seeing laughing, singing along and bobbing her head while rocking out to everything from Crayon Pop to Lady Gaga. Many media sites have praised her on being such a “cute and pretty” drummer, but the reason she’s on our list of favorites is her undeniable talent and charm. Simply put, she has so much fun during her performances that we can’t help but smile along.

Check out some of our favorite S. White performances below.

 

The 25 Most Common Dance Moves In The Club

 

For todays #TBT, we bring you Celeste Chen’s hilarious list showing the 25 most common dance moves in the club. Although the video was uploaded over a year ago on April 2013, rest assured that these dance moves are still alive and well in 2014. In fact, the video is meant to showcase the dance moves in Singapore clubs, but it’s safe to say we’ve seen “The Worm” and “The Awkward” just about everywhere.

Check out the video below and let us know which move you’re most guilty of. 

 

 

This video has gained over 1.5 million views, but Celeste Chen is no stranger to online popularity. Chen is a well-known blogger based in Singapore and after 9 years of blogging, she has gathered an impressive fan base of 100,000.

“My readers are interested in what thoughts I have about the newest gadgets, food, fashion and travel,” Chen writes in her official page. “Follow me, as I show you along the way about my opinion of whats hot, and whats not.”