Wong Fu’s “This is how we never met”
Lets just make one thing clear: If you’re going to include race when trying to flirt with a girl, you’d better choose your words wisely. Some people have a really strange approach to flirting with Asian women and (trust us) a lot of times this just won’t end in their favor. We’ve come across quite a few no-no’s ourselves and we’re here to share them. Continue reading for a list of things NOT to do to pick up an Asian Girl.
1. Do NOT make her part of your collection.
“I’ve always wanted to date an Asian girl”
“Asian is the only type I haven’t dated before”
The last thing we want is to have someone date us just so that we complete their collection of ethnicities. We understand you being intrigued by something new, but this is definitely not the way to show it.
2. Do NOT come up to an Asian girl saying “NiHao”, “Ahnyoung”, or “Konnichiwa”.
“I was at a bar with my language partner from Korea, mind you she’s fluent in English and German, and this guy approaches us and drunkenly says “Ahnyoung” in a really bad accent. She looks him dead in the eye and says in flawless English, “You’re not even saying it correctly…” and we walk away laughing. Wongfu Productions was incorrect in their “Yellow Fever” video, it is NOT true that Caucasian guys can get an Asian girl by saying hi in a foreign language with a bad accent.”
This is especially true if you’re not even sure of a girl’s race. We’ve already had to deal with a lifetime of people assuming Asians are all the same.
3. Do NOT compare her to “typical” Asian girls.
“There was a guy who tried to compliment me by saying the way I speak and even my major in college (English) is not like all the other Asian girls. He went on talking about how Asian accents are unattractive and how it was such a good thing I was so “Americanized”. He thought he was complimenting me by elevating me above other Asians, but he really just ended up insulting my culture. No go.”
If you think that we take this as a compliment then you’re mistaken- especially if its clear that your definition of a “typical Asian girl” is distorted.
4. Do NOT think you’re gonna win her over by saying you like her food.
“Oh you’re Chinese? I love Chinese food!”
You’d be surprised how often we get this. We appreciate that you like our food, but that has absolutely nothing to do with you dating us. You may be trying to connect with us, but really- that’s a stretch.
5. Do NOT think that racial comments are attractive.
“In high school, a boy said, “If i came to your house to pick you up on a date and met your dad, would he come at me with a samurai sword?” “
This tactic is neither cute, nor intelligent, nor charming. Quite frankly its just not very nice.
6. Do NOT point out that you have Asian friends to try to charm us.
“Once I had a guy try and connect with me by saying “I like Asian people. I have an Asian friend actually.” Did he really think that just because he got along with his one Asian friend, I would automatically think he’d be a good boyfriend?”
That’s splendid that you have Asian friends, but just like the food comment- it has nothing to do with us dating you.
7. Do NOT say you have “yellow fever” or only date Asian girls.
“I once went on a date with a guy who complained and said his options were limited since his parents only approved of Asian girls. I don’t need a guy who thinks he’s settling for me”
“He thought it was cute to tell me he had Yellow fever.”
We don’t want someone who is dating us merely for the color of our skin. Its perfectly fine for you to have a preference to Asian girls (you can’t help what you’re attracted to). We don’t even have a problem if you only date Asian girls, but we don’t want to hear that our race is the only or main reason you’re dating us.
8. Do NOT overgeneralize Asian girls .
“I don’t usually date Asian girls, they always get too jealous”
“I don’t normally date Asian girls, I can’t deal with the accent”
Being like Alexandra Wallace when you talk about Asian girls would be counter-productive for you. You are simultaneously assuming that all Asian women are the same and insulting us. Heads up, this won’t work on us.